FLIRTING between men and women is not that
simple nowadays and, well….When was it?
But flirting is seemingly even more complicated today as men and women
seek easy but effective ways of meeting people. As such, approaches to flirting depend basically on two elements:
“the purpose” and “the target”. These two elements always go hand in hand. If
we make our purpose to “hang out” with someone then if we realize they don’t
fit our criteria for a relationship we can stop and let it go! And then we can
begin to look again for someone more suitable.

In this respect, Ecuadorians and foreigners
are very different from one another.

Ecuadorian men and women tend to present
themselves as Mr. Right or Miss Congeniality respectively, even when they’re
just looking to “fool around”. On the other hand, most foreigners tend to be
clear about what they want. The funny
thing is that Ecuadorians are increasingly admitting being interested in people
who are clear when flirting… so then, why aren’t we clear? After all, being
clear and flirting with honesty is what really works. We have a purpose and a target, so it can’t go wrong!

Luly, Reporter, Age: 27 .-

“Recently, I met a
guy. He is not Ecudorian, and is about my age. I really liked his way of
flirting, and even when he was saying lots of nice things that I wasn’t
listening to, I was surprised by how clear and honest he was from the very
beginning and I was in the position to decide whether I was interested or not.
His honesty made him more interesting to me; the more he said what he wanted
from me, the more fascinated I was. His
lips were attractive, his deep eyes seduced me and I just let myself be
hypnotized by a fantasy of the senses! Yes, even now I can say it still
interests me!”

Lucia, Lawyer, Age: 29.-

“This week I went dancing with my friends at
a new bar. As usual, a foreign guy came up to me. He was French. At the
beginning I did not like him, but then, he started telling me about his life
and did not seem to be interested in me. That really caught me! I thought: If
he is not interested in fooling around with me, why is he spending time with
me? That definitely seduced me. When
the night was ending, we looked like two friends, but inside, I was very
interested in him, and was wondering when he would ask me something “very
indecent”. Then, in a very clear and direct way, he asked me to go to his place
to have fun. Of course I said yes!

Joss, Tourist, Age: 33.-

“When I first came here, I did not know at
all about how to chat up Ecuadorian women, I didn’t know what to say. But
actually it wasn’t necessary for me to know. One night, I went to an exhibition
at a museum and a girl asked me on a date!! That was really interesting because
I wasn’t expecting it, coming from such traditional culture like the Ecuadorian.
After our date, I said to her I wanted to see her again, and since then, we
have been seeing each other quite often”.